Thursday, May 3, 2012

Where we were, are, and will be.

I'm sorry I'm late on writing this blog!  Things have been so truly hectic.

A lot of you are following my family and our "big move".

Well, that big move has turned into a much different move.

For those of you new to The Lovely Crow, I am Elizabeth Alan, author of those patterns.   I'm also a military spouse.  My husband has served in the U.S. Air Force for almost 13 years.  We have 6 beautiful children.  Ages 13, 11, 7, 6, 3, and 1.  We've moved from East Coast to West and back again several times. :)   It's been a wonderful adventure!

I juggle A. LOT.  But I wouldn't trade my life for any other.  My husband is absolutely the light of my life.  If you knew me well, you'd get sick of me quickly because I am completely head over heels for this guy, and I talk about it OFTEN.  He couldn't be a better man or father than he is.   His support and encouragement, his amazing love and devotion to me and our family is in large part responsible for why I've been able to create this small business and write the patterns I do.

So there's the background.

Earlier this year, we found out that we would be moving to Turkey.  We were all SO excited.  13 years in the AF, and we've never left the country!  We made plans.  I hired family members to help send patterns, I begged testers to help answer questions.  Everything was set in place so that I would have a safety net while in process of the move.  I had no idea how long it would be before I would be settled in Turkey enough to handle it all on my own again.

We packed up our house, and decided that the kids and I would leave for Tennessee (where family is) to spend a few weeks before our big move to Turkey! :)  2 years is a LONG time to be away from family, and I wanted some extra time with my mom especially.   The plan was to be there for 2 weeks, and then drive back to Maryland in time to get on a plane with all 6 kids to Turkey!  SOOOOOO Exciting!

I drove to Tennessee from Maryland (a 9 hour drive), and a little more than half way there, my husband called to inform me that in fact, the kids and I would NOT be going to Turkey.    Now, while I can't go into details, a different opportunity presented itself, and in the long run, the kids and I staying here in the states while my husband goes to Turkey will turn out to be a very good thing for my family in the long run.    But meanwhile, it means a LOT of big changes for me, for my children....

We arrived in TN where my mom lives, in a very small, wonderful town.  It was after some prayer and opinions from a LOT of people I trust and admire that we made the decision that the kids and I would move to TN where my mother lives.   We had already put in a notice with our base housing in Maryland, had already packed up the house, so that work was done.  And I just could NOT face having 6 kids on my own so far away from family.

So I spent 4 days in TN.  I needed to find a place for us to live!  Because of the economy, there are just NO places to rent.  The few that I could find were too small for my family, and the owners were not willing to rent such small places to such a large family.

I have to admit, I felt really hopeless and lost.

But my husband decided we would make an investment, and buy a house!  So, I contacted a real estate agent, a man from my home church who has watched me grow up, and he is WONDERFUL.  He took me around to a lot of houses and I found one that I LOVED.

We're in the process now of trying to negotiate with the current owners, and will probably be able to close around the middle of June.

After 4 days in Tennessee, I realized I needed to go back to Maryland and spend as MUCH time with my sweet husband as I could.  So here we are, the kids and I, back in Maryland, living in a packed up house, out of our suitcases for just a few more days...

The movers will be here in a few short days, to pack up our stuff and store it until I have a place to move it.  We're officially out of our house a day after that, and then the kids and I will be staying in a hotel with my husband until he leaves.

*deep breath*

And then he will get on a plane.  The kids and I will go back to Tennessee.  We'll be homeless for about a month, until we can close on a house, and will be traveling back and forth between my moms and my in laws (both in TN).

And here we go!  I'll be 15 months without my husband, raising our 6 children, while trying to build and maintain my business.   I haven't cried.  I haven't gotten excited.  I think, actually, I've handled all of the very quick quick changes with grace.  At least I've tried.
I've got these 6 beautiful wonderful persons looking to me, waiting for MY reactions, MY feelings.  It's what they base their own reactions on.   And I think I'm doing pretty well!

What does this mean for The Lovely Crow?

Well, it means I'm not going to have the amazing support and encouragement on hand from my husband.  It means I'm not going to have nearly as much time to devote to my business.  It means that patterns will come slow, if at all.   It means a lot of things, and to be quite honest, I'm not sure HOW the next 15 months will look exactly.
Please just know, I'll do my best.

As always, thank you so much for the support, love, and encouragement from so many of you!  Thank you for the sweet messages, comments, and emails I've gotten.  I can't tell you how often one of those messages has lifted me up at JUST the right moment.  I get a few mean emails here and there, but the largest majority of them have just been wonderful, and such an encouragement for me.

<3
Ebeth

40 comments:

  1. Wow. such a big change! you are a strong woman! I love youre patterns! big hugs from a student in norway, wishing to live youre life!

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  2. What a wonderful example you are to all of us!! The PATTERN of your life is teaching us all!

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  3. Well congrats on the new house the new job opportunity! Boo- to your husband being away and putting your business on hold. My dad was in the Army, and if there is one thing I know and that is that military wifes are so very strong! Everything in life happens for a reason-even if you don't see it at the time. I too live in TN (Knoxville) and it is a great place to raise your children-even if it is for a little while! Good luck to you -Pilar

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  4. Thanks for keeping us updated! You are an inspiration to me, as i know you are for your children, family, and friends. Keep the faith, be strong when you can, and when you can't, well then, just let it all out! I am a former military wife myself...the deployments really stink in a lot of ways, but good does come from them too. Good luck to you all, and we'll see you when we see you! I for one, will be waiting patiently for new patterns without expectation! Hugs!
    -Melissa Gilliss

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  5. Your attitude about this life change is so refreshing. Sounds like you have a peace that passes all understanding :) I wish you and your family all the best !

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  6. What a story...........and adventure. I wish you the very best. ~Georgia

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  7. thank you so much for sharing your blog! My husband just deployed to afghanistan on saturday and thinking of a year without him, raising our children ... well... it sucks. but I hear from this blog you go to church... so I know that God will grow you in ways you couldn't imagine, hone you as a wife, mother and friend and most importantly as a child of God. Hold tight to him. He brings joy with morning, and thankfully, a day is only 24 hours :) I just started reading the book, The Power of The Praying Wife... the first chapter brought me to tears this morning as I think about this year apart. Mostly because I want this year to grow me and make me a proverbs 31 kind of gal :) good luck to you and your family... but then, who really needs luck when you're resting in his wings!

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  8. Wow....what an inspiration to women you are! What an inspiration to ME you are....you might get messages from people at just the right time for you.....you just GAVE a message "at just the right time" to me. Thank you.

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  9. If anyone can handle such a change, YOU CAN!!!!!!!!
    I would love to have your positive attitude. Good Luck to you!

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    1. You are truly an inspiration! I admire your grace and determination to hold things together during uncertain times. I di come from a military family but not in my married life. Mu married live has fallen apart very tramatically (thankfully my kids are all grown up) but like i said your grace and deternination to carry has further inspired me to toughen my resolve to survive. Thank you, i am blessed to know you. Much luck. Look forward to new patterns no matter how far in the future they may come.

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  10. You, your husband and your family will continue to be in my prayers. My husband served in Viet Nam. I was 3 months pregnant when he left. Without God and family I don't think I could have handled it. It sounds like you have a good support system. Continue to live one day at a time. God has used facebook to bring us together and I am so glad he did. Please thank your husband for his sacrifices because without the military we would not have the freedoms we love.

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  11. The joys of military life. I'm a marine/army wife and am very thankful my husband will be retiring this year. Been married 12 years and happy to leave military and its quirks behind. I've been thru 2 Iraq deployments (8 months, 1 year). My husband missed the 1st year of our 1st child's life & that was hard, especially dealing with the traumatic birth of my 1st baby without him. Life is hard but it makes us so much stronger. I have gone thru rites of passage that I am so grateful for now. Thanks for sharing your story with us, some of us actually care, even if we haven't met you:)
    Blessings and love to you.

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  12. wow!!! your story is for a entire hollywood movie... All my energy for you and your kids... 15 months will pass fast...
    Sandra

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  13. Thanks for the update, glad you're managing well. Keep your head up and with your family and friends support and God's love and guidance you will all come through just fine. 20 years of Navy life taught me that for sure :) Do what you can with your business but put your family first. 15 months will be over in a flash and you can pick right up where you left off. There are plenty of cute cowboy hats and boots for us to crochet in the meantime. May God bless and protect your sweet family.

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  14. WOW....your life has really turned UPSIDE DOWN!! I'm praying for you and your family. We are in ministry and move alot too. You ARE a strong woman demonstrating much grace to your kids during this stressful time. What a legacy your are giving them!! How proud your husband must be of you!! I too just LOVE YOUR PATTERNS...have several. Keep spirits high you'll find a way to equilibrium soon!

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  15. I posted on facebook! Love your patterns!
    Chris Reynolds

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  16. Praying for you and your lovely family as you go through this change in your lives. Hugs!

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  17. Oh wow! What a roller coaster ride! It sounds like you've made some really good decisions on when/where to settle but there is still so much more and I'll keep you in my prayers! I single-mom it M-Th every week with 4 kids, but at least I get my hubby back on the weekends! Hugs! Hang in there!

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  18. I am glad you are able to be by family during this separation time. I know that will be hard but even harder without others to support you as an adult. I will pray for you. Thanks for your site. I just discovered your patterns on Etsy and bought 4 to try. I have one little boy's loafer made and am working on the other one. The Lord bless you!

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  19. Oh gosh - you are an amazingly strong person! Wow! And if you are ever feeling low or overwhelmed then just look to us, we'll perk you back up again! Good luck with your move. I hope your husband fairs well in Turkey. I hope the time just flies & you will soon be in your hubbies arms again before you know it!
    Hugs, Rie.

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  20. Well, good luck and from your post I see that you have the strength of God guiding you all! You will be no doubt in GOOD Hands = ) God Bless.

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  21. Moving is tough. My husband and I every 3-4yrs with his work, state side though. Time will fly.

    A HUGE "Thank You" for sharing your wonderful patterns, I stumbled onto your website a few months back and was just amazed how beautiful your patterns are. I typically crochet blankets but since having discovered your patterns, I am having such fun and great reviews from family and friends with what I have made, all thanks to you! Thank you!

    I also shared your link via Facebook.

    Kari

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  22. God bless you as you go through this quickly changing season of your life. You are surely a strong woman of God! You might consider writing a book someday about trusting the Lord in all things, you certainly are encouraging others as I am reading through your blog. I LOVE your patterns and have purchased most of them already! In my opinion they are the best written and easiest to follow patterns on the web. Not to mention the designs are fantastic!! Praying for many blessings for you and your wonderful family!

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  23. Oh my!!! Good luck with all the moving and sad departures, your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.
    Meredith

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  24. Oh boy 15 month without your husband!!! I wish you all the luck in the world that those 15 month will fly by and you have your hubby and the kids their daddy back in no time!!! Your family is in my thoughts and prayers!!!!

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  30. My prayers go with you and your family.
    Chris Reynolds

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  31. You and your family are amazing!!! I can just feel the love for your husband and children oozing out of you. :) As a military wife and mother, you have already accomplished so much and had your lives disrupted so many times by moves that, I am sure, you will handle this one as well.

    I was one of 8 children growing up in a non-military family, so I can only imagine the sacrifices that you all have endured. Your love will surely see you through all this and my prayers are that the time will pass quickly and you and your children will weather this transitions with only small bumps in the road.

    Thank You and your husband for your service to our country. It is so very much appreciated.
    Carolyn VanOstran

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  32. Wow! Thanks to your husband for his service, and to you and your kids for sacrificing time away from him. Good luck!

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  33. OMG!! You are an amazing woman, and an inspiration to us. Be with your kids as much as possible. Thank you for the update. I wish you and your family the best of luck during the coming months. ((Hugs)) Kathy

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  34. I know we are strangers but I feel like I know you by your posts and listening to you (on your videos)teach me to crochet your beautiful patterns. Please know you have been in my prayers and will continue to be so while you are away from your husband. I have three married daughters who live on the opposite side of the US and Skype has been our best friend! I get to see them and all my grands whenever I want. I hope that is an option for you and your spouse. Blessings to you :-)

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  35. I just started to follow you, because I found your patterns on Etsy and ended buying 4 of them. I'm a mom as well with 3 girls and enjoy having a crochet hook and thread next to me, my sisters started to call me Mrs. Spider. I hope you and your family are setteling and that everything turned out as you expected. Love your work,lover your posts. Blessings from the Dominican Republic.

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  37. I have only recently started following you on FB, and your post tonight bought me here. I read your post with a little sadness, and in fairness have read the response (which is pretty weak)

    I am not so new to crochet, having learnt the very basics as a child, but lost the art for a long time and only recently rediscovered my love for all things woolly, knitted and crocheted . .

    I am starting out myself in a small, homemade business, basically trying to make money from a hobby. I don't have the brains for design, so rely on people like you. Thus far, my inspiration has come from books and magazines. Having read what I've read here, I've bought my first two virtual patterns, from Etsy, from you!!

    Your rainboots are the cutest thing I've ever seen!

    So, keep your chin up, keep the faith, and keep designing.

    Happy Christmas to you and your family.

    xx

    PS - am sure that this will not be the last purchase you get from me . . . ;-)

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  38. Hi my name is Pattie, mother of two grown girl & boy, also 3 grandchildren from my daughter and still waiting for the fun to begin with my son. My daughter is also a military wife almost 20yrs and raising children and keeping it looking like the best life is a challenge in itself. Right now they are living with me and I see all of what your talking about. The kids share one bedroom which turned out better than I thought would and they all love to do art. I decided to even share my art room with them. I am a self-taught mosaic artist and it's hard trying to teach them everything I know and more and taking their advice on my own art. It's totally amazing I must say. Keep up with what you do because it's wonderful that you share your work with the rest of the world. I crochet also. It kind of keeps me leveled. When I am crocheting in relaxes my mind enough to think about the next thing I want to crochet. This probably sounds crazy but it actually works. I've had 14 surgeries from a car accident 18 yrs ago and it been constant surgery up to a couple years ago. I have learned how to incorporate my art as pain therapy and it really works for anyone you know that you want to share this with. I wish you all the luck for your future. It sounds like you are well grounded and so are your kids. Your life is so totally different and from someone who experiences life at the moment as you, "You are an amazing mother and your husband should be very proud." I am a fireman's wife and can really relate to alot of what you women go thru. Continue with your work. This is the first time on reading your blog and you have many people who admire you. Keep up your work with your kids, and crocheting and by all means talk to God 24hrs. a day. I do and sometimes I do find my answers right away so tell him everything because that is what he wants from us...Our Hearts! God Bless! Pattie Logan, Cambridge, MD Born in Wheaton, MD.

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